{"id":409006088,"date":"2018-12-21T08:09:19","date_gmt":"2018-12-21T14:09:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/?p=409006088"},"modified":"2020-02-29T12:54:50","modified_gmt":"2020-02-29T18:54:50","slug":"how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal with an Engagement Ring that You Don\u2019t Like"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1280\" class=\"wp-image-409006089\" src=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image.jpeg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image.jpeg 1920w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image-500x333.jpeg 500w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image-1200x800.jpeg 1200w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image-768x512.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/word-image-600x400.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So, your long-term partner got down on one knee and asked you the million-dollar question. And, seeing that you\u2019re reading this article, we can tell that you said yes! Congratulations!<\/p>\n<p>Apart from your dream <a href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/modern-meets-vintage-wedding-ideas\/\">wedding dress<\/a>, you expect your engagement ring to be the prettiest piece of jewelry you\u2019ve ever owned. But what happens when it\u2019s the other way around? The look of utter disappointment creeps on your face when you see it and you contemplate whether you must show off your ring or not. If you don\u2019t like your engagement ring, know that other women have been there and you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to feel guilty about your feelings toward your engagement ring. This problem is common among brides-to-be, and we\u2019re here to give you some advice to help you when your engagement ring isn\u2019t exactly what you expected.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/diamond-ring\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-large wp-image-409006090 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937476-1200x800.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937476-1200x800.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937476-500x333.jpg 500w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937476-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937476.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Living_With_the_Ring\"><\/span><a id=\"post-409006088-_1dztae8wrpzp\"><\/a>Living With the Ring<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_50 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\" role=\"button\"><label for=\"item-64911f0185055\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><span style=\"display: flex;align-items: center;width: 35px;height: 30px;justify-content: center;direction:ltr;\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/label><input  type=\"checkbox\" id=\"item-64911f0185055\"><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-visibility-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like\/#Living_With_the_Ring\" title=\"Living With the Ring\">Living With the Ring<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like\/#Deciding_on_Changing_the_Ring\" title=\"Deciding on Changing the Ring\">Deciding on Changing the Ring<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like\/#Listening_to_the_Other_Side_of_the_Story\" title=\"Listening to the Other Side of the Story\">Listening to the Other Side of the Story<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like\/#Avoiding_the_Guilty_Feeling\" title=\"Avoiding the Guilty Feeling\">Avoiding the Guilty Feeling<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/articles\/how-to-deal-with-an-engagement-ring-that-you-dont-like\/#Compromising_on_the_Ring\" title=\"Compromising on the Ring\">Compromising on the Ring<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<p>Whether it\u2019s custom, inherited, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.loveandpromisejewelers.com\/engagement-rings\/vintage\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">vintage engagement rings<\/a>, it\u2019s difficult to like a gift when you think it\u2019s ugly or it\u2019s not your style. However, for the sake of feelings, it wouldn\u2019t hurt to try and live with it for a few weeks to see if your perception of it changes. Try to mix it in your daily wardrobe choices and maybe it&#8217;ll grow on you. It\u2019s essential to give that engagement ring a chance.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Deciding_on_Changing_the_Ring\"><\/span><a id=\"post-409006088-_m3b7zscpzgpx\"><\/a>Deciding on Changing the Ring<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>After you have given it ample time to consider, maybe you\u2019re still having doubts and regrets about the ring. If you are, you\u2019ll need to gently and honestly communicate with your partner about your feelings regarding the engagement ring.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Listening_to_the_Other_Side_of_the_Story\"><\/span><a id=\"post-409006088-_iqibxfefi9nc\"><\/a>Listening to the Other Side of the Story<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>You should know by now that honest, respectful and loving communication is the key to a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/meet-catch-and-keep\/201702\/7-secrets-successful-relationship\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">successful relationship<\/a>. Think of this challenge as an opportunity to exercise problem-solving and open dialogue between both of you. You should present your thoughts carefully, avoid placing blame and let him know that you appreciate the thought and money he put into choosing a ring for you.<\/p>\n<p>During this conversation, chances are, you\u2019ll have an idea of why your <a href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/weddings\/luxe-trends\/\">partner<\/a> chose that style for you. Everyone has their reasons, after all. This dialogue won\u2019t be an easy one for either of you. However, if the sight of the ring is still upsetting you, you\u2019re better off telling your partner sooner rather than later.<a href=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/diamond-ring-2\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-409006091\" src=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937502-1200x800.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937502-1200x800.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937502-500x333.jpg 500w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937502-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/diamond_ring_1576937502.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Avoiding_the_Guilty_Feeling\"><\/span><a id=\"post-409006088-_5wdbwg7ssspu\"><\/a>Avoiding the Guilty Feeling<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing wrong with honestly telling your partner how you feel about the engagement ring. Of course, it won\u2019t be pleasant if you\u2019re not too happy or at least excited about the ring but you shouldn\u2019t feel guilty. It\u2019s not that you\u2019re ungrateful; you simply don\u2019t like it.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Compromising_on_the_Ring\"><\/span><a id=\"post-409006088-_lzo0g1s7ogb9\"><\/a>Compromising on the Ring<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>When your fiance explains why they chose the ring, you\u2019ll see it from a fresh perspective. Maybe you can learn to appreciate it after the explanation because you see it in a new light. But, this obviously isn\u2019t a guarantee. If you\u2019re leaning toward the decision of changing the ring or at least making some tweaks, make sure to factor in the main reason that he picked the ring in the first place. For example, he chose a diamond with a heart cut to signify his love for you, keep that heart-shaped diamond cut. You can change the band or make other custom changes.<\/p>\n<p>A brand new engagement ring should come with a return policy. For situations involving an heirloom engagement ring, you can compromise on when can wear it, such as family events or special occasions. Custom rings, on the other hand, can be tricky. You can talk to the ring\u2019s original designer and trusted jeweler on how you can alter its appearance.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So, your long-term partner got down on one knee and asked you the million-dollar question. And, seeing that you\u2019re reading this article, we can tell that you said yes! Congratulations! Apart from your dream wedding dress, you expect your engagement ring to be the prettiest piece of jewelry you\u2019ve ever owned. But what happens when [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1554,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":""},"categories":[3852],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/409006088"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1554"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=409006088"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/409006088\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=409006088"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=409006088"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sammydvintage.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=409006088"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}